We have ideas, imagining and muse whispers.
They inspire us.
But then we let them go. We don’t breathe life into them. We overthink them. We try to get it right, and we let them pass.
Why do we do this?
It frustrates us all. So why do we do it?
As women bought up in a patriarchal culture, we have learnt to value doing more than feeling.
That’s what we were taught at home, at school and professionally.
Thats what we believe. Thats what we measure ourselves against.
How much we have done. And how it will be received.
But it doesn’t work for women. It doesn’t work for us.
Creation - giving birth to an idea is a feminine process.
So when we want to create something, we have to do it in a feminine way,
And that is not to focus on the action - the doing ness and how it will be received,
The feminine way of creating is to focus on emotion.
We need to ignite our feelings to get the doing to flow.
The doing is the delivery.
It’s a process. It’s not the main event.
Our thoughts create our feelings, and the energy of these two things facilitates the doing.
Before the doing, there is always a feeling, an emotion that comes from the psyche, which is our imagining, the ideas, the dreaming.
From this mind picture comes the soul.
The emotion, the feeling, the essence of the imaginings.
Only when this work is done can we begin the doing.
This is how women create in their genius.
And I'm not just taking huge projects and life events.
Im talking from the most humble of visions, like getting to yoga or writing a post.
Because the doing that we sweat so much about just happens, when we allow ourselves to work like this.
When we work in a creative process as we are supposed to, action just flows.
How do I know this?
Because I have watched myself trapped in this non creative creation cycle.
Frozen in the belief that it is all about the doing and the delivery.
Wretched just trying to motivate the doing while disconnected from the creation.
Notice how completely masculine just doing it sounds?
When we are focused on the doing we are also focused on the receiving.
And it's this deadly combination that stops us creating.
When I am consumed by getting something done and how it will be received.
I lock up.
I literally get knocked off my creative centre and hoodwinked out of trusting my intuition.
Let me put it this way.
When a woman gives birth to a human baby. What environment is that baby going to flourish in?
Is it the doing, the birthing process?
The birthing is the passageway for creation to happen through.
The creative work that will drive the inevitable birthing process has happened way before.
Thats what gets done in the incubation period.
The 9 months it took to create.
The birth is obviously a critical part of the process, but it’s not the thing.
The baby, the creation is the thing.
It’s the same with what you dream of creating.
Without the incubation, there is nothing to deliver.
The problem is when we are in creation, our mind skips to delivery (action focusecd and receiving ( other people's opinions)
When a child is born a mother knows she has to go through this part of the process to birth what she has created.
But she is not focused on how the birth will be received.
She is just focused on the energy of what she is delivering and on being the vessel to safely deliver her creation.
She is not worried about what other people will think of the child. ( Death Mother is a topic for another day) The focus is on the child.
Can you see where I am going here?
We have to do the same with our ideas, imaginings and muse whispers.
We have to incubate the emotion that calls us.
We have to cultivate the image that feels us.
We have to incubate powerfully and intentionally.
That's where we need to spend our time.
And then we have to master focus on the energy.
And then the birth will come.
And if we trust the process, then we can trust what we put into the world is perfectly enough.
Because I can tell you true to that, a woman can not create with magic, purpose and majesty, focused on the doing and how it will be received.
Allow yourself to dream and imagine. Freely. Create.
Allow yourself to feel the emotions that your thoughts think about what you want to create.
Find the quality of focus. Like a needle through a thread.
Stay in the energy of the emotion.
Think about the doing.
Pull your mind back when goes to think about how it will be received.
Find the focus.
And allow the energy of your thought and feeling to give you instructions on what you need to do.
Find the trust.
And keep dropping into the focus.
When it's done. Gratitude for the process.
for what you have done.
Written by Maree White.
Maree is a women's coach and Midlife Rites Of Passage guide. She teaches and coaches women to use the tools of the psychic, emotional and intuitive realms that awaken within us at midlife. Her work has helped hundreds of women shed the conditioning and belief systems that were preventing them from living in truth, full throttle gift and mature feminine power.