Are you ok? I'm just checking in because I've coached A LOT of women this week around relationship conflict.
Being in conflict with your husband, wife or partner feels awful. Especially if the conflict is more of the same as before.
If that's you today, this is for you.
You are not the situation you are in.
Your thoughts and your situation are separate.
If you are upset and you think it’s because of the situation you are trapped.
The only way you can get your freedom is by being able to separate your thinking from the situation.
This will give you immediate clarity.
You can’t always change your situation, you can't change your husband, or your partner, the words she said or the actions he's taken.
But you can change the way you think.
Why should you?
Because when you fight with the situation, as Byron Katie would say, "you are in a fight you will never win."
"Our relationship is stale."
It's very easy to make a statement like that.
Face it, who hasn't felt like their relationship has been more like week-old rye than a freshly baked baguette?
A relationship with a human, especially one you are close to, is neutral. It's not good or bad, and it's not fresh or stale.
A relationship with a human is made up of your thinking about that human. Nothing else.
The emotion - the freshness or the staleness comes from the way you think about that relationship.
The thought you have creates emotion. then the emotion occurs in your body as a feeling sensation. That feeling then directs your behaviour towards that person, affecting how you show up, act or behave. It affects what you do and don't do.
This combination of thought, emotion and behaviour creates the energetics of your relationship, the atmosphere of your relationship if you like.
Your thoughts, feeling and behaviours give you the result, the experience of your...